Hold Me Tight

View My Upcoming Hold Me Tight workshops

(The above link will take you to my couples therapy website, www.jenniferolden.com)

The Hold Me Tight workshop for couples is the streamlined version of Emotionally Focused Therapy.  It is a relationship enhancement and education program based on the book Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Dr. Sue Johnson.

The workshop is structured to move through the seven conversations necessary for secure attachment.  These conversations are as follows:

  1. Recognizing the Cycle:  The goal is to gain a clear and shared narrative about the essence of the problem that keeps the couple caught in loops of disconnection, pain and loneliness.
  2. Finding the Raw Spot:  At the deepest level, all conflict in a romantic relationship is about the fear of rejection and/or abandonment.  Each person’s vulnerability is often buried within fights.  During this conversation, couples acknowledge their raw spot.
  3. Revisiting a Rocky Moment:  This conversation provides a platform to practice recognizing the negative cycle, seeing the vulnerability underneath, and responding differently to each other.  The goal of this conversation is to provide a platform for safety.
  4. Forgiving Injuries:  This conversation is about revisiting emotional injuries in a safe environment, equipped with a map and support to begin taking the vital steps toward healing and forgiveness.
  5. Bonding through Sex and Touch:  This conversation is about how deeper emotional connection leads to better sex, and how better sex can lead to deeper emotional connection.
  6. Hold Me Tight:  This conversation is the culmination of the weekend.  Couples will learn to be emotionally accessible, responsive, and engaged with each other.
  7. Keeping Your Love Alive:  This conversation is about how to keep the connection alive and vibrant.

The Hold Me Tight workshop is designed to get on a path to secure attachment, which includes:

  • Greater physical and emotional intimacy
  • Reduced conflict and improved conversation, especially about the topic that previously created discord
  • Understanding oneself and one’s partner more accurately
  • Creating deeper and more fulfilling ways of being together
  • Feeling better about yourself and your partner
  • Communicating more effectively
  • Discovering that you are not alone
  • Creating lasting change for you and your partner
  • Healing old injuries

Testimonial from a previous Hold Me Tight participant:

This workshop is the best workshop I’ve ever attended.  I’m pregnant with my second child, and I was so worried about how the new baby would change my relationship with my husband.  I was afraid that we wouldn’t be as close.  I feel closer to my husband than I ever have, and I shared things I never thought I’d share.  I also learned about his vulnerabilities.  I am much more secure about handling anything that comes our way.  I know I’ll mark this workshop as the turning point for us.  Thank you, Jennifer.

~ Hold Me Tight participant

View My Upcoming Hold Me Tight workshops

(The above link will take you to my couples therapy website, www.jenniferolden.com)